Chester Bennington, was the lead singer for the platinum-selling band Linkin Park, he was found dead in his home near Los Angeles, he was 41.
In May, he publicly responded to the death of his friend Chris Cornell front man for Soundgarden and Audioslave, who recently hung himself at age 52. In an Instagram post he reflected: “I can’t imagine a world without you in it,” he wrote. “I pray you find peace in the next life.” (https://twitter.com/ChesterBe/status/865227703091208192)
Men may look like they have everything under control but the reality is, many men are hurting.
A new CDC report shows that overall suicide rates rose 24 percent in the last 15 years and in middle age men, the spike is even higher. Suicide rates for men ages 45 to 64 jumped by 43 percent during that time period. Men continue to die from suicide at more than three times the rate as women. The CDC reports, overdose deaths by opioids—including narcotic pain relievers—have increased by 200 percent from 2000 to 2014. This is serious and if we care about our friends, husbands, brothers, fathers and sons…we need to be working to create circles of community for men, where they can find meaningful relationships with other men who will provide true friendship, care and support.
Don’t try to tackle this life journey alone, accept that offer to join a meeting, a men’s group or a faith community and begin creating a circle of community that you can share your burdens with and support others who need it as well.
If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts or feel that you are in a particularly bad place you should make an appointment with your primary care doctor. (You can also call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK if you are in a state of distress.) Don’t make a final decision on what is probably a temporary problem. It may feel hopeless but with support, care and counsel, you can move from suffering, to surviving, to eventually thriving.
The most manly thing you can do in your distress is reach out for help from others. Knowing when you have reached the end of your own personal resources is the realization of a wise man…act on that knowledge and ask for aid in your battle.