For the choir director: A love song to be sung to the tune “Lilies.” A psalm of the descendants of Korah.
-Include love songs in your marriage. Include flowers in your marriage. Music and flowers will strengthen and sweeten your marriage.
1 Beautiful words stir my heart. I will recite a lovely poem about the king, for my tongue is like the pen of a skillful poet.
-Include poetry in your marriage: You will have many years ahead and many moments to say things that you need to say but won’t quite know how to say it. That’s why God gave us Poets.
2 You are the most handsome of all. Gracious words stream from your lips. God himself has blessed you forever.
-Learn to tell each other the good things about each other. You will increase what you praise. If you want to make love at night, you have to be loving during the day.
3 Put on your sword, O mighty warrior! You are so glorious, so majestic!
-A good person protects what they love. Security matters in marriage. Protect it from all the dangers that threaten to kill it be they physical, emotional, relational, financial or spiritual.
4 In your majesty, ride out to victory, defending truth, humility, and justice. Go forth to perform awe-inspiring deeds!
-If you want to succeed and have a healthy marriage, be trustworthy, humble and do what is right. The truth of what you say is proven by what you do in marriage.
5 Your arrows are sharp, piercing your enemies’ hearts. The nations fall beneath your feet. 6 Your Divine throne, endures forever and ever. You rule with a scepter of justice. 7 You love justice and hate evil. Therefore God, your God, has anointed you, pouring out the oil of joy on you more than on anyone else.
-A marriage that lasts is one that understands that you will fight all kinds of battles in life but God will give you what you both need to cultivate a life of joy together.
8 Myrrh, aloes, and cassia perfume your robes. In ivory palaces the music of strings entertains you.
-It’s the little things that matter the most in marriage. Many marriages have all the right things happening but still stink. It doesn’t matter how good a man or woman you are, if you stink, nobody will want to be close to you.
9 Kings’ daughters are among your noble women. At your right side stands the queen, wearing jewelry of finest gold from Ophir!
-A good marriage surrounds itself with good people. You will face many things in marriage that you won’t have a clue on how to navigate. That’s why God gave us multi-generational friends. If you don’t have any…make some and if you have bad friends, it’s time to make some new ones.
10 Listen to me, O royal daughter; take to heart what I say. Forget your people and your family far away.
-One of the first commands in the bible regarding marriage, is “leave and cleave”, which means God wants you two to create your own life together. Many marriages falter because they will not maintain proper boundaries with inlaws, or judge their own marriage by one another’s parents marriages, or feel trapped to replay the bad stories of the past.
11 For your royal husband delights in your beauty; honor him, for he is your lord.
-Love and respect are the two foundational motivations for men and women. If you understand this truth, you will understand how to serve one another and unlock each others hearts.
12 The princess of Tyre will shower you with gifts. The wealthy will beg your favor.
-Finances are one of the top three reasons couples get into difficulty and often divorce. Figure out how you will manage your money together. Oh, and you will get all kinds of glassware as wedding gifts, re-gifting is ok for recently married folks, that’s marriage truth #36 in the marriage handbook.
13 The bride, a princess, looks glorious in her golden gown. 14 In her beautiful robes, she is led to the king, accompanied by her bridesmaids. 15 What a joyful and enthusiastic procession as they enter the king’s palace!
-Beautiful clothes and a lovely home are far more important in a marriage than most men think. Life will be more difficult until you learn the importance of both of these things. A well dressed woman in a crappy home, or a terribly dressed woman in a nice home are both to be avoided.
16 Your sons will become kings like their father. You will make them rulers over many lands. 17 I will bring honor to your name in every generation. Therefore, the nations will praise you forever and ever.
-Your kids will be like you, weigh that piece of knowledge very, very carefully. It’s not just what you say but what you do, that will be the most powerful influence on your kids. And remember, when you are dead, the only people who can really tell others about the kind of person you were, is your kids. Weigh that heavily too.